August 2009

My husband got me an engagement ring instead of a wedding ring,we have been married for nearly 5 years now and it hasnt really bothered me up untill now,but he has a nice wedding ring for himself and all i have is a cheap $80 most likley Cubic Zirconia Engagement Ring,ive told him that it is not a wedding ring but he seems to think its ok to wear.my nan thinks i should just go and by my own wedding band to wear with it,what should i do? i havent been wearing it ever since i had kids(puffy fingers etc) but i really wanted a proper wedding ring..
how should i ask him for one?
it’s starting to go black and dull looking,thats why im thinking i should have a better one that will last and one that is a proper wedding ring.
im just thinking that he will get all touchy about it like i only care about expensive things but thats not the case,just looking for an easy way around it.
he lost his and when he went back to his country for a holiday his dad bought him a new one.
Money has never been an issue for him,i think because he is indian he doesnt really understand what a proper wedding ring should be,even though i have told him many times..he thinks they are a waste of money.
i dont need a larger size,i just took it off during my final months pf pregnancy and just never put it back on,and he hasnt even said anything to me about it.

buy a plain GOLD (white gold is what I have for my engagement and after a few years I had to fix the rhodium plating because it looked dull and was no longer a brilliant white) or platinum band. You sound bitter though when you say "cheap most likely cubic zirconia"…you should talk to him. Do you guys have money problems? Tell him why it hurts your feelings. Don’t fight just have an open discussion and ask him if money is the reason etc.

Ozzie whatever the heck
White gold is an alloy(because there is no white colored gold in nature LOL) of gold and at least one white metal. DO YOU KNOW WHAT AN ALLOY IS???? LMAO

White gold needs upkeep because it is yellow gold mixed and dipped in rhodium for the white color. White gold is softer than platinum and gets easily scratched, and if used in abrasive chemicals often (dish soap counts) the rhodium coating kind of wears off after a while and looks a yellow tingey color.

White gold is an alloy made by adding metals such as nickel, palladium, and silver to pure gold. White gold may also be plated with rhodium to achieve a pale luminescence. The rhodium coating, however, eventually wears away and must be replaced every one to five years to maintain a brilliant white color. This process typically costs under $50 depending on the style and intricacy of the ring.

I wore my engagement ring nonstop for two years(in the shower, chemical labs(this is a no no!.. I believe this is what caused the rhodium to dull and against safety)) and doing dishes. It only cost like 25 bucks for the jewler to refinish it and it looked like new but YES white gold is an ALLOY. Please educate yourself. My ring was worth a lot of $$$ but I am not going to lie. Gold or Platinum if you want silver color(my wedding band) will last longer and won’t dull.

I got my ring with my fiance at a REPUTABLE store so pleeeassseeeee sweetie.

Just for your uneducated self ozzie read these
http://www.dyjewels.com/je_whitegold.shtml
http://www.diamonds-usa.com/diamonds_knowledge/JewelryTutorial.asp

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